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#47995 - 22 Mar 07 11:14 Who Cheats More?
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I ran across a survey/poll,"who cheats more?" in a magazine while perusing the bookstore.

Here is the stats:
*admit they've cheated at least once on a spouse or serious partner
57% of men
54% of women

*they'd cheat if they knew they'd never get caught
74% men
68% women

Once I figure out how to create a poll/survey, we can do informal survey on JC (next post).

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#48002 - 22 Mar 07 11:39 Re: Who Cheats More? [Re: doremi]
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I am guessing that poll was taken in USA. I have to say that I am left with the sense that Asian women (in general) are the most likely to cheat. I can say from personal experience that most Asian women I have met expect their partner to cheat on them at some point in time. They also seem to have no issue with sleeping with other people while they are with somebody.

In Japan its just their culture - I was there for 12 months and can honestly say that 80% of the women I slept with had a boyfriend or husband.

Thailand - Much the same although the guys seem to be worse than the girls.

Indonesia - Dont seem to sleep around much when married (but it happens) but seem to think sleeping around behind somebodies back is okay because they are not married. Doesnt matter they are in a relationship!!

Just the other week I had a text message from a girl I know begging to come over and give me a blow job. I sent her one back saying I am in a relationship and so the answer is no. I then received 4 further texts - I wont go in to detail but the message was clear .. you are not married and a blow job isnt sex so its not cheating

I dont know if the same volume of cheating goes on at home and is just kept behind closed doors, but i am amazed at how easy it is for Asian people to play away from home.

Personally if i want to sleep around then I would stay single ... but if im in a relationship then I am 100% faithful
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#48020 - 22 Mar 07 12:17 Re: Who Cheats More? [Re: chewwyUK]
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Yes poll was taken in the US.

Wish I had insight on why Asian women cheat or put up with cheating spouses or partners. Blame it on the Asian socio-culture (easy way out).

Heard about Japanese women, notorious for cheating around, don't understand how this cheating supposed to keep marriage alive?


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#48022 - 22 Mar 07 12:23 Re: Who Cheats More? [Re: doremi]
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cheaters!! or call them horny bastards...blame it on the gene!

i never cheated on my dude...i rather ask him a permission "babe, since you are far away, can i molest another nude model,please?"
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#48023 - 22 Mar 07 12:23 Re: Who Cheats More? [Re: doremi]
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I know its crazy .... men spend all their money in hostess bars and women spend their (or husbands money) in host bars. yes thats right women pay money to sit and have drinks with good looking guys who say all the right things!!
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#48026 - 22 Mar 07 12:47 Re: Who Cheats More? [Re: chewwyUK]
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Quoting: chewwyUK
yes thats right women pay money to sit and have drinks with good looking guys who say all the right things!!

hey, don't knock it ... it's a job.
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#48071 - 22 Mar 07 14:48 Re: Who Cheats More? [Re: KuKuKaChu]
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Some people can always find some flaws in their relationship. Most people want to feel good about themselves, maybe their spouse or partner haven't given enough attention of love, so they turn to another person. Cheating doesn't mean they are unhappy with the relationship. Maybe they just feel unhappy inside. Cheating or not, i prefer not to judge. There's no perfect life nor relationship. People have whatever reason. Asian women tend to cheat, i think its because their society doesn't give them enough definition and sense of self worthy. Maybe that's how they way they are learn about themselves and relationship. To just do things against it
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#48103 - 23 Mar 07 07:20 Re: Who Cheats More? [Re: emmajkt]
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If you're having sex, that's cheating.
But these days, with workplaces getting more intimate and no one batting an eyelid when you have a close friend of the opposite sex, some of the lines are blurred.

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#48104 - 23 Mar 07 07:27 Re: Who Cheats More? [Re: Indon asli]
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"If you're having sex, that's cheating."

What?????????????
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#48106 - 23 Mar 07 09:35 Re: Who Cheats More? [Re: emmajkt]
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Quoting: emmajkt
Some people can always find some flaws in their relationship. Most people want to feel good about themselves, maybe their spouse or partner haven't given enough attention of love, so they turn to another person. Cheating doesn't mean they are unhappy with the relationship. Maybe they just feel unhappy inside. Cheating or not, i prefer not to judge. There's no perfect life nor relationship. People have whatever reason. Asian women tend to cheat, i think its because their society doesn't give them enough definition and sense of self worthy. Maybe that's how they way they are learn about themselves and relationship. To just do things against it


I go with you Emma smile
we always find the flaws in our relations..no relations is perfect juts like the people, no body's perfect..but as a human nature we always try to keep doing the best..in relations specially in life..

when you find somebody, men or women..she/he's making an affair with somebody else..it's doesn't mean she/he's not happy in her/his relations or he/she's cheating her/his partener but that person trying to find a different situation and actually its unfair..realy..realy unfair!

i met alots a men like that..he's trying to make an affair with another girl, when I try to ask about the reason, he just say "coz I wanna it" I'm happy with my family, I'm happy with my life..but I like to go with another girl, it's fun..it's beautiful, it's make me to be wonderful!"

see, having sex or making an affair with somebody else..it's not the first reason that he/she's going stress with her/his partener smile

personally, from me! don't ever do that..coz it's gonna hurt your partener..Since I found my soulmate..I never do that again wink
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#48107 - 23 Mar 07 09:38 Re: Who Cheats More? [Re: chewwyUK]
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Quoting: chewwyUK
"If you're having sex, that's cheating."

What?????????????



no need to be sock, chewwUK! perhaps, for some INA girls..it's a cheating wink
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#48110 - 23 Mar 07 09:47 Re: Who Cheats More? [Re: Jokie Jokie Girl]
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Quoting: Jokie Jokie Girl
personally, from me! don't ever do that..coz it's gonna hurt your partener..Since I found my soulmate..I never do that again wink

again?! you mean you've done it before?!
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#48112 - 23 Mar 07 10:31 Re: Who Cheats More? [Re: chewwyUK]
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Quoting: chewwyUK
Yes thats right women pay money to sit and have drinks with good looking guys who say all the right things!!


LOL....who is the good looking guys? A doraemon and an old bald guy?....
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#48113 - 23 Mar 07 10:39 Re: Who Cheats More? [Re: Lulu]
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LOLOLOL!

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#48117 - 23 Mar 07 11:25 Re: Who Cheats More? [Re: Just]
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Cheating, mmm maybe for some couples its for fun and for experience or etc... But why they are cheating, only one reason and one answer, its because they partner or their life its so bored. Yes get bored total or feel so bored, thats why they are cheating, make new life kaleee hehehe... Well umm, its up to them lol. I can't judge, no body perfects. As long their partner didn't know about it. Its OK lah kakakakakaka....


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#48118 - 23 Mar 07 11:31 Re: Who Cheats More? [Re: dolphin]
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cheating, make new life kaleee hehehe... Well umm, its up to them lol. I can't judge, no body perfects.



Ahumm I beg to differ there
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#48147 - 23 Mar 07 14:42 Re: Who Cheats More? [Re: Indon asli]
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Quoting: Indon asli
If you're having sex, that's cheating.


So if you're not having sex, you're not cheating? i was once stuck in this confusing grey area.

I was in a relationship when i met a friend whose friendship developed to what i believe something more. Sex was out of the question because we both were in a relationship. However we were so close in other aspects, we shared about basically everything & anything, he's the 1 person who understood me well. I didn't know if i was cheating or not.. couldnt figure it out, and if i thought i was, i tried to deny it. HOwever deep down I knew it was wrong..

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#48157 - 24 Mar 07 06:55 Re: Who Cheats More? [Re: Choc_Cow]
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Confiding emotionally, sharing one's thought may be more dangerous than having sex which may just be physical contact no emotional attachment to/for some (just my opinion).

Here comes the contradiction, we,women, confide and share our deepest emotional feeling with our female friends regularly. We don't feel guilty about it, in fact the opposite. Heavy load of burden been lifted off *great*.

What are cheating behaviors? It's a matter of individual perception or social norms.

In the same poll above, "34% women think watching porn is cheating" ---crazy women I say.
"only 17% men do" --can't comment on this. I'll let the JC's men comment on this.


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#48164 - 24 Mar 07 07:34 Re: Who Cheats More? [Re: doremi]
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Depends on what you define as porn!
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#48171 - 24 Mar 07 08:05 Re: Who Cheats More? [Re: Dilli]
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Quoting: Dilli
Depends on what you define as porn!

you know, like indonesian playboy. that kind of stuff.
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#48173 - 24 Mar 07 08:11 Re: Who Cheats More? [Re: KuKuKaChu]
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Hard to get excited over Indonesian Playboy?

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#48187 - 24 Mar 07 11:33 Re: Who Cheats More? [Re: Choc_Cow]
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Quoting: Chocolatea
Quoting: Indon asli
If you're having sex, that's cheating.


So if you're not having sex, you're not cheating? i was once stuck in this confusing grey area.



Got me confuse here too! Can you define sex? Can you consider giving a blow or hand job as sex activity? Arrgghhh...pusing!

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#48230 - 24 Mar 07 20:46 Re: Who Cheats More? [Re: Just]
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Now i know that beside having sex......... coffee, movie, lunch or diner (must be plus flirting) that means are cheating.

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#48236 - 25 Mar 07 08:51 Re: Who Cheats More? [Re: jok]
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If you even look at a member of the opposite sex you must be cheating! I think I'll keep cheating as the alternative is grim!
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#48247 - 25 Mar 07 12:16 Re: Who Cheats More? [Re: Dilli]
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Life without flirting is boring, don't you think? A certain dose of flirtation is healthy and keep life fun.

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