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#43090 - 02 Feb 07 06:07 Dating Questions
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Hello guys,.
I believe you are expert in it, but this is I ve got an article for us who never expected that there's "rule" in dating. For the yahoo readers,.please ignore if you have read it. I just put it here as the original with intention,.if it could useful for you guys who are flying in the sky with full of flying hearts,.over your head,... or for you guys,.just to take a look,.nothing lose to read smile

So here we go,..
KG



Got dating questions? We know people who have answers. Ask a dating question
27 ways to know if you've found the right relationship for you
By Stacy D. Phillips


There is nothing more glorious than falling in love! What a wonderful feeling it is, when, after all that searching and seeking, you finally hook up with that compatible mate. But wait! How can you know that the person you think is right for you, really right for you?

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It's easy, well, maybe. All you have to do is make sure that you ask the appropriate questions -- queries that will help you establish how your likes and dislikes, and needs and wants, line up with those of your significant other (should that new love become truly significant in your life). And, of course, the reality has to match up to the answers to these questions.

At the right time and place, I suggest people exchange answers to the following questions:

1. Kids or no kids?
2. Smoking or no smoking?
3. Drinking or no drinking? (Same for drugs)
4. Religious beliefs: Match? Blend? Clash?
5. Who works? Who stays home (especially when the kids come along)?
6. Who wants to live where?
7. Who controls the checkbook?
8. What is his/her personal relationship with his/her family? Too distant? Too close?
Too weird? Appropriate to your standards?
9. How are holidays spent? At home? With family? Alone? Vacationing?
10. Windows opened or closed? Heat/AC on or off?
11. What side of the bed must you (he/she) sleep on?
12. Where to spend vacations? Leisure time?
13. Sick: Left alone or babied?
14. Appropriate gift giving: birthdays? Yuletide holidays? Special occasions?
15. Who does what around the house?
16. What is acceptable hygiene?
17. What are his/her hobbies, pastimes?
18. Preferences: Music? Movie? Book favorites?
19. Favorite foods?
20. Pets or no pets? What kind?
21. Decisions about the children: School, church, discipline, allowance,
extra curricular activities, friends, and curfew?
22. Mealtimes: Early or late?
23. Furniture: Vintage or Contemporary?
24. Sleeping habits: Four hours or eight?


Three more compatibility factors
If this list is not enough to help you determine whether or not your new love is right for you, try these as additional ways to size up the compatibility factor: How does your new love handle a crisis? Behave in public places? Treat your friends and family?

I also think you can tell a great deal about your new mate by the way he treats his mother and how she treats her father. Observing how a person regards that parent is key in establishing how he or she will treat you!

If you are in love -- if you've finally met Mr. or Ms. Right -- step back from all that awe and wonderment for a moment and get answers to all of the above. You will find out whether or not this new relationship (the one you've been looking for all this time) is one that will or will not last. As they say, love can be blind, but if it is going to last, love also has to be practical!


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Stacy D. Phillips is a family law attorney and managing partner of Phillips, Lerner & Lauzon in Century City, Calif. She is certified by the State Bar of California as a family law specialist. In her practice she represents celebrity and high-net-worth individuals in marital and custody matters. She has been named as one of the "top 50 female litigators" by the Los Angeles Daily Journal and is listed in Best Lawyers in America.
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#43128 - 02 Feb 07 16:48 Re: Dating Questions [Re: kucinggemuk]
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Just wanted to say I love your avatar...
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#43171 - 03 Feb 07 02:27 Re: Dating Questions [Re: Orang Kanada]
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Thank you so much for your compliment .... smile
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#43173 - 03 Feb 07 03:26 Re: Dating Questions [Re: kucinggemuk]
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Registered: 23 Jan 07
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Personally I think those questions are not really factors in determining whether he/she is the one.
Maybe for some people, religion is important, and other find it's not even important.

How do we know whether he/she's the one...I guess we can "feel or tell" in our hearts. The chemistry is there and somehow we can just feel it without looking or memorizing all those rules.

However I do agree that we should have something in common or same opinions to a certain extent.

Cheers,
Leony

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#43176 - 03 Feb 07 05:05 Re: Dating Questions [Re: Leony]
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Most important one was missed:

Do you fuck on the first date?

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#43177 - 03 Feb 07 05:09 Re: Dating Questions [Re: Dilli]
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Quoting: Dilli
Do you fuck on the first date?

YES wink
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#43210 - 03 Feb 07 22:17 Re: Dating Questions [Re: juminten]
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Thats my girl!
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#43238 - 04 Feb 07 06:44 Re: Dating Questions [Re: kucinggemuk]
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minta reply dari cewek gaul di jakarta - ogut bule betawi - sudah lama disini - ada biz sendiri, ga lagi ke bar2 - mau hubungan dengan cewek pendidikan, sopan, dan class. Richard

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#43247 - 04 Feb 07 08:05 Re: Dating Questions [Re: richard]
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The only dating question:

"Do you do doggy doggy"

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#43271 - 04 Feb 07 15:17 Re: Dating Questions [Re: Squirrel]
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don't say that - your fat korean mate would eat her .
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#43689 - 07 Feb 07 09:44 Re: Dating Questions [Re: richard]
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Quoting: richard
minta reply dari cewek gaul di jakarta - ogut bule betawi - sudah lama disini - ada biz sendiri, ga lagi ke bar2 - mau hubungan dengan cewek pendidikan, sopan, dan class. Richard


Hi Richard,

Does your surname consist of 4 letters?


Edited by bonita (07 Feb 07 09:45)
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#43694 - 07 Feb 07 09:55 Re: Dating Questions [Re: Squirrel]
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Quoting: Major Bloodknock
The only dating question:

"Do you do doggy doggy"



you pervy hehehhe
Dont ask just do it!!! :P
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#43703 - 07 Feb 07 10:52 Re: Dating Questions [Re: Queenie]
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Quoting: Queenie
Quoting: Major Bloodknock
The only dating question:

"Do you do doggy doggy"



you pervy hehehhe
Dont ask just do it!!! :P


"Don't ask just do it!!!" Isn't that called rape?
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#43707 - 07 Feb 07 11:06 Re: Dating Questions [Re: Piss Salon]
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Mmmmm PS confused I think so grin
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#43712 - 07 Feb 07 12:00 Re: Dating Questions [Re: dolphin]
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"Furniture: Vintage or Contemporary?"

Aaah, that make-or-break key to relationships.

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#43729 - 07 Feb 07 13:22 Re: Dating Questions [Re: Piss Salon]
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Quoting: Piss Salon
Quoting: Queenie
Quoting: Major Bloodknock
The only dating question:

"Do you do doggy doggy"



you pervy hehehhe
Dont ask just do it!!! :P


"Don't ask just do it!!!" Isn't that called rape?


lol nah if you both want it :P
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#43771 - 07 Feb 07 20:41 Re: Dating Questions [Re: Polisi Tidur]
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Quoting: Polisi Tidur
"Furniture: Vintage or Contemporary?"

Aaah, that make-or-break key to relationships.


Vintage vintage vintage, take my word & she may even propose to you bender!

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#43775 - 07 Feb 07 21:58 Re: Dating Questions [Re: Polisi Tidur]
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Quoting: Polisi Tidur
"Furniture: Vintage or Contemporary?"

Aaah, that make-or-break key to relationships.

that really depends on who wears the pants smile

if there is any confusion about this, then quietly suggest that she find another abode ... wink
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#43782 - 07 Feb 07 22:32 Re: Dating Questions [Re: Piss Salon]
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Quoting: Piss Salon
Quoting: Queenie
Quoting: Major Bloodknock
The only dating question:

"Do you do doggy doggy"



you pervy hehehhe
Dont ask just do it!!! :P


"Don't ask just do it!!!" Isn't that called rape?


Depends......
if using lubricant.......... i don't think so!!
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#43783 - 07 Feb 07 22:37 Re: Dating Questions [Re: jok]
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Ah Ela, as usual you never cease to surprise!
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