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#3696 - 14 Feb 06 16:03 The Great Dating Pay Debate
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Do you have an opinion on who should pay when it comes to men and women on dates? Are you a traditionalist who believes the man should always pay? Do you believe men and women should share dating expenses equally? Do your opinions change as the relationship progresses? We want to hear what you have to say about the great dating pay debate!
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#3697 - 14 Feb 06 16:11 Re: The Great Dating Pay Debate
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First date : man should offer to pay , woman should insist half half
Second date -man pays
third date woman pays (but like a coffee date or something-not extravagant)
If continuing man takes responibilty for money, but woman insist on sometimes paying-like movie tickets or something.
Hard balance to get right.
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#3698 - 14 Feb 06 16:50 Re: The Great Dating Pay Debate
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As far as I know...man will get "offense" if women pay, it feels like "gengsi" if a women pay him on a date, but for the next date, it's ok who is pay for like Ena said balance to get right.
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#3699 - 14 Feb 06 17:34 Re: The Great Dating Pay Debate
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no way, for me a man is a wallet that contained money when we're dating...so, man should know that..because for me no money no date..annnnd so that's why I never go to date with a men no money... wink alias gue nggak bisa jalan sama cowok yang boke!
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#3700 - 14 Feb 06 17:57 Re: The Great Dating Pay Debate
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I have somethnig big and thick you might want to hold Cherry - but its not my wallet smile

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#3701 - 14 Feb 06 18:12 Re: The Great Dating Pay Debate
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Hehehe, I guess is normal you have something big and thick coz' you lived in North Pole and you're a big Polar Bear,...so how many walrus have you eat... smile wink
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#3702 - 14 Feb 06 18:15 Re: The Great Dating Pay Debate
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Walrus on toast. YUMMMMMY smile

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#3703 - 14 Feb 06 18:25 Re: The Great Dating Pay Debate
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Hahaha...poor Walrus wink
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#3704 - 14 Feb 06 18:33 Re: The Great Dating Pay Debate
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Quote:
Originally posted by Polar Bear:
I have somethnig big and thick you might want to hold Cherry - but its not my wallet smile
i know that the big one..but for at this time I don't need the big...I'm loooking for the qualty
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#3705 - 14 Feb 06 18:36 Re: The Great Dating Pay Debate
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There is a saying in England, when talking about matierial for men suits.

"Never mind the quality, feel the width"

Means - it is poor quality material, but it is thick and will last for ever. Cheap suit that lasts for ever....

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#3706 - 20 Feb 06 07:55 Re: The Great Dating Pay Debate
juminten Offline
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Quote:
Originally posted by kumar:
Do you have an opinion on who should pay when it comes to men and women on dates? Are you a traditionalist who believes the man should always pay? Do you believe men and women should share dating expenses equally? Do your opinions change as the relationship progresses? We want to hear what you have to say about the great dating pay debate!
Rich dudes usually dont' care paying everything on first date. In my opinion, yes we men and women should share the dating expenses. Its not fair if only men have to pay; don't we both working and earning money?
If I go out with my dude, and he pays for dinner, then I pay for the drinks and movies. Usually I put my money in his walet so that looks like he pays for me. He is not happy with that but I insisted, then also I will cook nice dinner or lunch for him the next date. smile
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#3707 - 20 Feb 06 07:58 Re: The Great Dating Pay Debate
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I pay for the drinks, the dinner and the movie.

The rest of the night is on the girl.... smile

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#3708 - 20 Feb 06 08:01 Re: The Great Dating Pay Debate
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But one thing is true: many girls expect a BF to pay, and to have the car etc. But the girl (in the West) earns the same money as the boy. So she saves up her money. Then when the relationship ends the boy has nothing, and the girl goes on a big holiday or buys a sports car.

This happened to me many times when I was younger….

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#3709 - 20 Feb 06 08:08 Re: The Great Dating Pay Debate
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not only in the west, in Indo most girls dont' pay for the dates, they expected men to pay all the times.
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#3710 - 20 Feb 06 08:13 Re: The Great Dating Pay Debate
Lulu Offline
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Quote:
Originally posted by Ena:
First date : man should offer to pay , woman should insist half half
Second date -man pays
third date woman pays (but like a coffee date or something-not extravagant)
ohhh!!!! That's the rule?
:rolleyes: I just know, and think is sound so complicated for me...what should i do the time i flat broke, a hottie guy ask me out for a fancy dinner date? should i pass it? why just don't go with the flow? If a man offer and insist to pay, let him be...if you grow to like him, then automatically you're going to feel to do something for him in return. Like JG say, make dinner and invite him over on the 2nd date, probably buy small gifts, ask him out for cups of coffee. hmmm guess for me, who's inviting is paying.
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#3711 - 20 Feb 06 09:18 Re: The Great Dating Pay Debate
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Registered: 02 Feb 06
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Loc: Jakarta
Quote:
Originally posted by lalunalogy:
Quote:
Originally posted by Ena:
First date : man should offer to pay , woman should insist half half
Second date -man pays
third date woman pays (but like a coffee date or something-not extravagant)
ohhh!!!! That's the rule?
:rolleyes: I just know, and think is sound so complicated for me...what should i do the time i flat broke, a hottie guy ask me out for a fancy dinner date? should i pass it? why just don't go with the flow? If a man offer and insist to pay, let him be...if you grow to like him, then automatically you're going to feel to do something for him in return. Like JG say, make dinner and invite him over on the 2nd date, probably buy small gifts, ask him out for cups of coffee. hmmm guess for me, who's inviting is paying.
on the first date men should pay (but it depends on who's asking who first). if a man asking me first then he should pay either half of it or all the expenses
second date ; man should automatically pay all d expenses
third date : if we went to d movies then i paid for the tickets then afterwards he paid all d expenses.
Pretty much the same wit jakgal. but if i'am flat broke i'd go to the basic rule who's inviting is paying wink

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#3712 - 20 Feb 06 09:43 Re: The Great Dating Pay Debate
Polar Bear Offline
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Quote:
Originally posted by lalunalogy:
guess for me, who's inviting is paying.
I agree smile

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#3713 - 20 Feb 06 09:48 Re: The Great Dating Pay Debate
fransis Offline
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Registered: 18 Feb 06
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Loc: Jakarta
Men should pay for most dates of course!
that's one of the advantages to be a woman.
Even though sometimes i dont mind paying, but i only choose the small amounts... wink

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#3714 - 20 Feb 06 09:50 Re: The Great Dating Pay Debate
KuKuKaChu Moderator Offline
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what do you mean by "date"?
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#3715 - 20 Feb 06 09:51 Re: The Great Dating Pay Debate
Lulu Offline
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Registered: 19 Feb 06
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Loc: Indonesia
Quote:
Originally posted by Polar Bear:
Quote:
Originally posted by lalunalogy:
guess for me, who's inviting is paying.
I agree smile
love u babe wink
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#3716 - 20 Feb 06 09:54 Re: The Great Dating Pay Debate
Polar Bear Offline
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So are you inviting me out smile smile smile

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#3717 - 20 Feb 06 09:56 Re: The Great Dating Pay Debate
juminten Offline
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Quote:
Originally posted by lucille_ball:
[QUOTE].. but if i'am flat broke i'd go to the basic rule who's inviting is paying wink
LOL...I agree too, don't even dare invite him out babe! if he invites you then you tell him "I'm flat broke honey, will you pay for our date?" I'm sure he will appreciates your honesty smile
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#3718 - 20 Feb 06 09:58 Re: The Great Dating Pay Debate
Lulu Offline
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Registered: 19 Feb 06
Posts: 2226
Loc: Indonesia
Quote:
Originally posted by KuKuKaChu:
what do you mean by "date"?
1st jan, 2nd jan, 3rd jan....? smile
so anyone here wants to pay for all my lunches, dinners through out the year???
:p
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#3719 - 20 Feb 06 10:00 Re: The Great Dating Pay Debate
Lulu Offline
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Registered: 19 Feb 06
Posts: 2226
Loc: Indonesia
Quote:
Originally posted by JakGirl:
Quote:
Originally posted by lucille_ball:
[QUOTE].. but if i'am flat broke i'd go to the basic rule who's inviting is paying wink
LOL...I agree too, don't even dare invite him out babe! if he invites you then you tell him "I'm flat broke honey, will you pay for our date?" I'm sure he will appreciates your honesty smile
ohhh, don't worry! I'm pretty much always flat broke anyway.... laugh
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#3720 - 20 Feb 06 10:04 Re: The Great Dating Pay Debate
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If I take girls out for dinner it is to a Warung.

If they complain, next time the food is from gerobak/kakilima smile smile

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