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#21327 - 12 Apr 06 23:24 Gamble on love
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Guys or girls,

Can you please imagine:

If you had been having a fun-relationship for more than 2.5 years with someone and you fell in love with him/her, would you tell them that you care about them? Would you say it or just keep it to your heart for the rest of your life?

Would you take a risk of losing them for good by revealing your feelings?

Would you gamble on it...


It might not be a good topic. But I just wanna share and want to know your opinion (only if any...).

Thanks and good night.
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#21328 - 12 Apr 06 23:40 Re: Gamble on love
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What! you have to wait for 2.5 yrs to tell how you feel? thats a damn loooooong...time!
oh..no! that sounds like jaman "siti nurbaya"
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#21329 - 12 Apr 06 23:51 Re: Gamble on love
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Tell her/him, then move on whatever happen! If you just keep silence, the gambiling would be riskier, the stake is getting bigger, ....your self!!!!
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#21330 - 13 Apr 06 00:11 Re: Gamble on love
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Thanks WD and Laluna,

Fun might have been way so much that forget to even think of feelings. But none can deny when love comes. I just think it's impossible for people to turn a fun-relationship into romance, unless you want to loose them.

Must have been stupid to not pluck up courage up to this minute...

If you know what I meant by "fun-relationship". More complicated than what it seems.
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#21331 - 13 Apr 06 05:13 Re: Gamble on love
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BDPD sayang, I know what fun-relationship means. You guys just fuck buds basically! and yes its fun! but he is been grown on you for so long and you can't deny your feeling no more. So, tell him now! or you gonna lose another hot dude outhere! who knows maybe you'll find a nude model dude like me :p (kiddin'!)
I know I'm the only girl who likes to date playgirl models!
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#21332 - 13 Apr 06 07:52 Re: Gamble on love
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2 and a half years is one hell of a long time for a fun-relationship. Surely both of you have realised the relationship was either going to develop further or peter away in to nothing....the fact that you are still together speaks volumes.. At the end of the day you have two choices.
1. Address the situation, be honest and share your feelings with that other person, that way you will know where you stand for the future, which i regard as important.
2. Say nothing, carry on as you are and either the whole thing comes crashing down or you will continue to frustrated until the problem is addressed.

Take the Bull/woman/man/whatever by the horns and go for what you want......

Suffering isn't enobling, recovery is - Dr Christian N. Barnard
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#21333 - 13 Apr 06 07:59 Re: Gamble on love
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Girls, is it love? Or is it just the fear of loosing the 'fun part'? I mean the relationship and gone on for too long. Nothing has rocked the boat. It has not developed into anything more substantial. He's looking around, you're looking around. Nothing has caught either eyes or heart for that matter. So, why not just grab her/him while still can.

And what do you mean by gamble? Gamble means you prepare to loose. In this case the odd is 50/50. The stake is either you're gonna get trapped in the long term relationship with a view of marriage or free as a bird to catch another victim.

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#21334 - 13 Apr 06 08:18 Re: Gamble on love
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Quote:
Originally posted by g00f13:
Girls, is it love? Or is it just the fear of loosing the 'fun part'? I mean the relationship and gone on for too long. Nothing has rocked the boat. It has not developed into anything more substantial. He's looking around, you're looking around. Nothing has caught either eyes or heart for that matter. So, why not just grab her/him while still can.

And what do you mean by gamble? Gamble means you prepare to loose. In this case the odd is 50/50. The stake is either you're gonna get trapped in the long term relationship with a view of marriage or free as a bird to catch another victim.
Obviously I am a married and very committed guy, but this topic reminds me of the thrill of the chase.....which used to be my favourite part of dating!! The rush, the insecurity, will she, wont she....it always made me feel alive :p
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#21335 - 13 Apr 06 09:19 Re: Gamble on love
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why wreck a perfectly good relationship by pronoucing you are "in love"? watch the relationship fall apart the moment you do this... men don't like being put in cages, and "in love" is a cage.
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#21336 - 13 Apr 06 10:26 Re: Gamble on love
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To love someone is nothing, to be loved by someone is something, to be loved by someone you love is everything smile
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#21337 - 13 Apr 06 10:35 Re: Gamble on love
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Quote:
Originally posted by rubyenda:
To love someone is nothing, to be loved by someone is something, to be loved by someone you love is everything smile
and to declare that you are "in love" with your man is relationship suicide.

if you really love your man, and are not intent on just putting him into a relationship cage, then back off and let him breathe!
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#21338 - 13 Apr 06 10:49 Re: Gamble on love
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QUOTE]and to declare that you are "in love" with your man is relationship suicide.

if you really love your man, and are not intent on just putting him into a relationship cage, then back off and let him breathe! [/QB][/QUOTE]
I think, you should address the situation, if you want to progress, if he is not happy to progress in the relationship, it was never a relationship, just an easyway to get sex. Back yourself, and if you lose him, you have only lost sex, which is pretty easy to get from anyone......

P.S. did we ever confirm it's a man????
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#21339 - 13 Apr 06 11:06 Re: Gamble on love
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Thanks guys. It's nice to know answers from men's point of view.

Goofie and Kuku, you are indeed men. The point I got is that 'just enjoy the moment and forget that sickening love stuff'.

Magpie, you seem like a marriage councelor - can read the situation. Think it will be just the 2nd choice.
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#21340 - 13 Apr 06 11:15 Re: Gamble on love
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Quote:
Originally posted by Magpie:
P.S. did we ever confirm it's a man????
no, we didn't wink however, only a woman would ask for such advice! a man would never ask such a question, and certainly not in a public forum!! so the object of this matter is indeed a man! smile
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#21341 - 13 Apr 06 11:16 Re: Gamble on love
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ya ya ya . . . benar. i like this Topic!
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#21342 - 13 Apr 06 11:29 Re: Gamble on love
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Originally posted by Magpie:
I think, you should address the situation, if you want to progress, if he is not happy to progress in the relationship, it was never a relationship, just an easyway to get sex. Back yourself, and if you lose him, you have only lost sex, which is pretty easy to get from anyone......
Thanks Magpie,

Sex is easy to get, but great one with someone you love isn't. smile

Ok.... gotta go to Kantor Polisi now.

See ya guys later!
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#21343 - 13 Apr 06 11:37 Re: Gamble on love
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Quote:
Originally posted by KuKuKaChu:
Quote:
Originally posted by rubyenda:
To love someone is nothing, to be loved by someone is something, to be loved by someone you love is everything smile
and to declare that you are "in love" with your man is relationship suicide.

if you really love your man, and are not intent on just putting him into a relationship cage, then back off and let him breathe!
To really love a women
To understand her – you gotta know her- deep inside
Hear every though – see every dream
N’ give her wing when she want to fly
Then when you find your self lyin’ helpless in her arm
Ya know ya really love a women
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#21344 - 13 Apr 06 11:47 Re: Gamble on love
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Quote:
Originally posted by BDPP:
[QUOTE]Originally posted by Magpie:
[qb]I think, you should address the situation, if you want to progress, if he is not happy to progress in the relationship, it was never a relationship, just an easyway to get sex. Back yourself, and if you lose him, you have only lost sex, which is pretty easy to get from anyone......
Thanks Magpie,

Sex is easy to get, but great one with someone you love isn't. smile

I know this is going to raise up lots of questions, but what's the point in being in a relationship that you want to progress with, if the other person doesnt? Are you happy to continue having great sex, but no relationship?? Because if that's the case, you have answered your own question. It comes down to this, are you happy? I would suggest no, because of your original question. Do you think this man/woman/whatever is going to make you happy by committing? Once again, I would say no, because you have waited 2 and a half years to start expressing yourself. So, think hard about what makes you happy, and then go for it. It make bring you pain at first, but after that you can be really honest with yourself and get what you want. And if you do end up single and are looking around, make sure you are honest with yourself and your future partners, otherwise the whole thing will swing round and bite you on the ass. Obviously this is only my opinion. Remember that you are a star and your deserve happiness and ambitions fulfilled smile
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#21345 - 13 Apr 06 12:00 Re: Gamble on love
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Quote:
Originally posted by KuKuKaChu:
why wreck a perfectly good relationship by pronoucing you are "in love"? watch the relationship fall apart the moment you do this... men don't like being put in cages, and "in love" is a cage.
words "in love" is a cage! Really?
wonder why many men gave me "I'm inLOVE with you" then followed by "will you marry me?" I guess they like to be in my cage huh!

And honestly for me as a woman having difficulty to say "I love you/I love you too" however when the relationship going no where for more than 2 yrs, then I'd like to know where we stand! most men I knew they will tell me, how they feel toward me after a few months we get together without being asked. And I don't ask anyway! I let them to tell me first.
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#21346 - 13 Apr 06 12:06 Re: Gamble on love
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Quote:
Originally posted by wallet-digga':
Quote:
Originally posted by KuKuKaChu:
why wreck a perfectly good relationship by pronoucing you are "in love"? watch the relationship fall apart the moment you do this... men don't like being put in cages, and "in love" is a cage.
words "in love" is a cage! Really?
wonder why many men gave me "I'm inLOVE with you" then followed by "will you marry me?" I guess they like to be in my cage huh!
Yep, redecorating the WD cage......! eek
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#21347 - 13 Apr 06 12:08 Re: Gamble on love
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Quote:
Originally posted by BDPP:
Guys or girls,

Can you please imagine:

If you had been having a fun-relationship for more than 2.5 years with someone and you fell in love with him/her, would you tell them that you care about them? Would you say it or just keep it to your heart for the rest of your life?

Would you take a risk of losing them for good by revealing your feelings?

Would you gamble on it...


It might not be a good topic. But I just wanna share and want to know your opinion (only if any...).

Thanks and good night.
don't expect someone to love you for what you are. in fact what we are changes every minutes, every second.. smile
Don't too much was waiting too long to on behalf of the love... smile
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#21348 - 13 Apr 06 12:09 Re: Gamble on love
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Magpie! hello darlin' *hugs* how are you? make lots of $$$$ for geulis manis today? hope so!
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#21349 - 13 Apr 06 12:14 Re: Gamble on love
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Originally posted by wallet-digga':
Magpie! hello darlin' *hugs* how are you? make lots of $$$$ for geulis manis today? hope so!
Hello Manis, yes making lots of money, and winding up the management
"you wanna pay me how much? Err, no thanks, but can you tell me whether you think I could get THIS job!?!?!?!"

Hugs back sexy legs, what you been up to??
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#21350 - 13 Apr 06 12:17 Re: Gamble on love
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if you really love your man, and are not intent on just putting him into a relationship cage, then back off and let him breathe! [/qb][/QUOTE]To really love a women
To understand her – you gotta know her- deep inside
Hear every though – see every dream
N’ give her wing when she want to fly
Then when you find your self lyin’ helpless in her arm
Ya know ya really love a women
(Brian Adam) [/QB][/QUOTE]

Hey, that's my Boyfriend's song!!!
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#21351 - 13 Apr 06 12:18 Re: Gamble on love
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The notion of 'Gamble on love' is a bit contradictory. How and why would one consider gambling on love? It is not something to gamble on. It's like playing with matches in a hot dry day.

One gambles with money, not with one's soul or heart or feeling. If one gambles with love to someone else, then one does not really love the person. Does one actually love one's self when one can easily gamble one's love away?

I gamble on football matches, on lotto, but never on love.

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